myatribe – when our contribution to someone else’s comment reflexively shifts back to a theme, topic, or opinion that we currently ascribe to. Real listening isn’t happening, and the other person in the dialogue is rendered unimportant, insofar that they have merely paved the way for us to come back to our thesis of choice.
We’ve all done it, some less opaquely than others, and it’s the product of a species of restlessness; an energy which is single-minded and often well-intended but functionally precludes real connection. If the subject at hand is something directly mentioned by our conversation partner, then by all means, we should add, brainstorm, and contribute.
But if we can hear our inner monologue interrupt real listening when the subject is unrelated, it’s time we cultivate the skill to sit back, listen, and forgo our latest rant.
It seems appropriate, if only on balance, but it might also help us prove that our presence isn’t a one-way street.
Whether we’re too far inside our own heads or overly transactional, either approach seems destined for black holes.
Here’s to squashing our next myatribe.
And here’s to taking my own advice.